THE GOOD, the BAD & the UGLY…

When I DREAMED of being a Parent… I DIDN’T DREAM of being WEIGHED DOWN with lists, tasks, stress and (occasional) feelings of INADEQUACY… However, that IS exactly what I KNOWINGLY and

WILLINGLY signed up for! 

PLEASE DON’T GET ME WRONG, I HAVE A BEAUTIFUL, INTELLIGENT, KIND, LOVING

CHILD THAT GIVES MY LIFE PURPOSE AND SUBSTANCE…

The problem is trying to find a HEALTHY BALANCE of enjoying THE GOOD. While SIFTING through the, NOT SO GOOD!

For some reason, MOST of US are taught that if WE talk about what is bothering US, then WE are WEAK minded and ungrateful to be parents (I have personally felt that way from time to time). In addition, WE have the tendency to beat OURSELVES up for not being the “perfect” parent (that we VOWED to be, before WE were actually parents)!

“I mean all we have to do is FEED, CLOTHE, SHELTER AND LOVE OUR KID…”

How hard can that really be??? LMAO;)

“WHOM EVER” came up with that shortlist, forgot a few things:

·         From day one, WE are responsible for making SURE OUR child has breast milk and not formula (to insure that they will be good in math aka mathematician).

·         WE should also make sure that OUR child has the cutest/ trendiest clothes to show that US and OUR baby’s are little fashionista’s.

·         In addition, THEY must have toys that stimulate brain development. To insure that OUR baby will be as smart as possible!

·          THE LIST GOES ON AND ON, BUT I WILL STOP HERE!

 Now do you get why WE are under so much pressure?

Yes, these are things that MAY OR MAY NOT be NECESSARY... However, as “GOOD” parents WE are “supposed” to be WILLING TO GO ABOVE AND BEYOND for our LITTLE ANGELS! RIGHT???

There is a HUGE difference between COMPLAINING AND ACKNOWLEDGING the obvious!

SIDENOTE: Even professionals with degrees and credentials have a trusted professional to vent to! So shouldn’t we allow ourselves the same luxury???

• As parents, it is important for US to communicate OUR feelings and frustrations with others (preferable friends, family and/or professionals). 
• This is the only way that WE can truly continue being the Best PARENTS WE CAN possibly BE!
• Reaching out TO OTHERS and voicing OUR frustrations keeps US from BOTTLING UP OUR EMOTIONS AND POSSIBLY HAVING A NERVOUS BREAKDOWN!
• Balance is the key, but practice is the only thing that makes “perfect”.  

PARENTING is FULL of rewards and pitfalls (as are MOST things worth having). As long as WE are honest with OURSELVES (regarding our boundaries and limitations)… WE will have MORE GOOD than BAD & UGLY!

REMEMBER, the PEOPLE who can clearly see their flaws, are usually the MOST SUCCESSFUL! ;)